We have two kids, so communication about everything is important.

Right now, they are young and they aren’t asking too many questions about why mommy takes them to church and daddy stays home.

“Don’t you wives realize that your husbands might be saved because of you? Several years and two kids later, Dave’s church attendance became sporadic. I give it a few years and he’ll be tired of pretending.

I spent a couple years being ashamed by his lack of faith. I never wore makeup until I was given permission, and I never broke curfew.

Basically, I was a focused girl who did very little to buck the system.

If I am completely honest, his questions have made me search the scriptures and really dig into and process my beliefs about certain issues.

It’s not enough to spout the Sunday school answer at him.

So when the time comes, I will not be one of those mothers who pitches a hissy when my kids have to learn about Islam or play with a dreidel while participating in a school's holiday program. Dave and I have an open dialogue about our beliefs.

In fact, I have been the parent that calls in and requests that certain holiday things get left out of school since I feel it is my responsibility to teach my children about religious holidays and their significance, not the school’s. He can freely ask me questions and I can now give the answer without fear of him browbeating me with anti-religion speech.

I spent a couple years being ashamed by his lack of faith.

I took it personally and thought I had failed as a Christian wife. My whole life I had been taught to only marry a person was in the same faith. But here I was, invested in a marriage with two little boys to raise and love, and Dave and I were tip-toeing around each other because of our differences.

Feeling convicted (Christian-ese for "feeling guilty") of several things in my life, I decided that I wanted to live my life more focused on God and pleasing Him rather than wallowing in self-hatred and focusing on myself. When I was just calling myself a Christian, but not really practicing, Dave being an atheist hadn't been a problem — but now it was. I found 1 Corinthians -16 and took it to heart, even if I wasn’t yet married; the last verse hit me hard and I clung to it. " data-reactid="18"So now, here I was thinking about my “unequally yoked” upcoming marriage.

When I was just calling myself a Christian, but not really practicing, Dave being an atheist hadn't been a problem — but now it was. I found 1 Corinthians -16 and took it to heart, even if I wasn’t yet married; the last verse hit me hard and I clung to it. He’s only saying he’s a Christian to make you happy and appease your dad.

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