Too many assume that domestic violence only occurs in poverty-stricken households with substance problems, where the victims are too economically downtrodden and uneducated to leave.

We’re thankfully light-years past the time when most people would just assume that a battered woman had done something to antagonize her husband and think nothing more of it. Some wonder whether there is some commonality among DV victims that makes them seek out abusive partners.

Others – many, many others – are confident that any strong woman would be out the door the first time a partner hit her. ” mentality seems, on-face, to be the natural product of a belief in female independence.

My question is: why is it so difficult to get people to rally against such a widespread, common, and devastating phenomenon?

I have a few ideas, which I’ll voice below, but I’m interested in hearing your answers in the comments section. Despite an ever-growing list of counterexamples, from Halle Berry to Madonna, people draw upon their own stereotypes to conclude that such cases are exceptions.

There will always be misogynists who think that domestic violence is prima facie acceptable.

But there are far too many people who agree that intimate partner violence is never justified, and yet treat it as a less important issue than any number of other social problems.Women are no longer expected to be tied to a man, so that means victims are liberated in a way they never would have been previously, right?Unfortunately, the assumption that leaving an abuser is a crystal-clear option fails to account for the myriad of complexities that might stop a victim from leaving.Yet it still seems that a truly far-reaching and candid discussion about domestic violence is far on the horizon.We are far from the days when domestic violence was considered a perfectly acceptable form of wife-discipline, and we’ve even made great strides from the default legal assumption that most abuse is a private relationship issue, but domestic violence is still treated with a large degree of stigma.These so-called feminists think that calling the act of domestic violence is wrong because it automatically means that people treat the recipient of that violence like a fragile victim, ignoring her autonomy and personal strength.