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This finding is consistent with research showing that relationships with more companionate love – based on friendship, feelings of affection, comfort and shared interests – last longer and are more satisfying.
Best-friend love is starting to sound better and better.
All of these benefits are backed up by accounts from a special type of relationship expert: couples who’ve been happily married for over 15 years.
More recently, across two studies with nearly 400 participants in relationships, those who place more value on the friendship aspect of their relationship also report more commitment, more love and greater sexual gratification.
In addition, valuing friendship also decreased the chances of the couple breaking up.
Other research shows that those in friendship-based love relationships feel they have a highly likable partner, and that shared companionship is an important part of the love.
A study of 622 married individuals revealed that those with higher scores on the friendship-based love scale also reported more relationship satisfaction, greater perceived importance of the relationship, greater respect for their spouse, and felt closer to their spouse.When you look at seemingly happy celebrity couples like Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis, or Leslie Mann and Judd Apatow, not only do they appear to be in love, but they also seem to genuinely enjoy hanging out together.How many people feel as though they have attained that type of ideal? You can tell her your most shameful secrets and know that they will go no further. She buys the best, most thoughtful gifts that you didn’t even realise you wanted until you receive them. She knows her own mind and respects your opinion and a difference of views is a good point of discussion and not the start of an argument. She doesn’t get jealous when you work with a pretty colleague or meet a female friend for drinks because she trusts you totally. She doesn’t just support your career, she takes an interest in it. Anything you know or have is instantly hers too and vice versa. She wears your clothes and suits them way more than you do. She gives little personal gestures like allowing you the first shower or offering you the last slice of pizza. And do psychologists confirm this new paradigm is a good one to strive for?