I’ve heard things like: “When a guy’s relationship ends, he replaces her.

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When a person (male or female) realizes that only they themselves can be responsible for their emotions, actions, and reactions…

and therefore sets countless impossible expectations into motion.

When we believe something that is out of alignment with reality, we suffer…

(Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a monster, I won’t completely cut a girl off, but I definitely won’t discuss anything along a relationship conversational thread.) This could be for a few reasons.

In the case where you dumped the guy, one common reason is that the guy doesn’t want to be alone, he doesn’t want to deal with his grief over the breakup, and he doesn’t want to “deal with himself.” When he jumps into another relationship, he can get a dose of external female validation and derive a feeling of false sense of self-esteem and self-worth from her positive attention.To wrap up this point: Most people can’t recognize when they believe something impossible, nor can they see the false belief as the source for all of the suffering…All they experience is the continuous suffering and they want the suffering to end.Recently the subject of guys and breakups came up and Sabrina and I went back and forth about what guys generally go through when they breakup.It came down to be too much to put into the article I was writing, so we decided that I should throw it all into an installment of “Decoding Male Behavior.” To start, I wanted to write this article to dispel some of the misconceptions I’ve heard in regards to men and breakups.No discussion was going to fix things, no clarity was to be had – it would have just been an emotional toilet for both of us.