While I found no mobile apps, there were three promising websites: After a few weeks of messaging locals and attempting to solicit dates in the Greater New York City area, I didn’t have much luck.In retrospect, the popularity of mobile apps most likely draws the use of eligible military bachelors, because unlike these sites, the interface is more friendly and the likelihood of meeting someone is much higher.

Recently though, I started to think about how hard relationships can be for service members and veterans.

So naturally, I took to Google to see if there was an online service for military dating.

We would have conversations about hobbies, school, the weather, and weekend plans, but no one wanted to exchange phone numbers, or set up a place to meet.

Typically, if I asked for either a number or a real date, I was met with radio silence and never heard from the guy again.

The site looks like it was designed on Microsoft Word in 1997, but it’s simple to use, and it’s free.

The registration process was thorough: Asking my preferences from eye color all the way to income.

The exceptions are barely in their 20s and typically looking to interact on a free mobile messenger app called “Overall, my experiences with the sites were varied, with one emerging as a clear winner.

I attempted to reach out to the sites as well to see if they could offer insight into success stories or the number of users, but their representatives said they couldn’t disclose any data about their users. Since I find the notion of paying for online dates a little too similar to paying for sex, I gave up on the site.

Those men who did reach out were often willing to share some fairly intimate personal details.