Rape culture thrives off your silence; your rapist's success in our society relies on you feeling ashamed and staying silent. Claim your life back; place the blame squarely back where it belongs, with the person who caused you this harm.

If you are that person someone chooses to speak to: listen to them, support them and most importantly believe them.

Our current 'justice' system holds very little justice for sexual violence survivors.

I walked away from my experience with the police feeling like their response was, "I'm sorry this happened to you, but there's really not much we can do." A verbal shrug of the shoulders. If you choose to ignore this, you have raped someone. I am not an island, I am not alone and this is why I choose to speak.

So that if there is ONE person out there who reads this, who this resonates with, they will know that they are not alone in their journey.

I remember feeling so confused by this, why was I crying?

I'd just had sex for the first time and that was meant to be great, right? I knew in my gut that I had just been raped but I tried to suppress this and dismiss it for a few months.

A friend of a friend raped me when I was 17 years old. We were getting along well chatting and later on he asked my friend, her boyfriend and I if we wanted to come back to his house – they had a spa and his parents were away at the time.

We all went back to his house and after a while my friend and her boyfriend decided to go home.

I wonder how many times since I've heard those words. " "His family are really good friends with my family!

"Let me shatter the bubble you are living in – 'nice guys' do bad things sometimes.

It was almost like the issue was too difficult for them to deal with.

I understand that working in a sexual violence team for the police is no walk in the park but I mean hey, neither is getting raped. If you have to pressure someone into doing anything with you, they do not want to. Robin Thicke sang about there being a blurred line, but he's wrong too. If there is a question mark as to the other persons' enthusiasm, take that as a no.

One of the officers told me she did not believe that coercion qualified as rape.